From Wedding Bells to Wedding Blues 婚禮後感到悲傷失落 歡愉化作婚後憂鬱
It was after midnight when Kaitlin Chad Moss, her new husband, Jeremy Moss, and a handful of devoted wedding guests lingered as long as they could before they were politely informed that the celebration was over and it was time to go home.
"That's when it hit me," said Kaitlin Moss, 29, who was married in September last year at the Green Valley Ranch, a lodge and events space in Coram, Montana. "I'm never going to have everyone I love in one room like this again. It was hard to accept. I felt sad, and it didn't go away."
Kaitlin Moss broke down that night in front of her girlfriends. "I wish someone had warned me that this was something you could feel. Why is no one talking about this?" said Kaitlin Moss, who lives in Denver.
Post-wedding sadness is not uncommon among the newly married. Laura Stafford, a professor and director of the Bowling Green State University's School of Media and Communication, and Allison Scott Gordon, an associate professor at the University of Kentucky's Department of Communication, have jointly conducted two studies on depression, specifically concerning newly married women.
"In 2016 we looked at 28 women, half of whom said they felt sad or let down after their wedding," Stafford said. Last year they interviewed 158 women. Twelve percent of the women interviewed in the second study expressed feelings of depression after being wedded.
"These women were the center of attention, and planning a wedding takes up so much of your time, it would be weird to not feel some kind of letdown," Stafford said. "We also found there was more focus on the wedding than on the marriage. There was also uncertainty about their goals, their role as a wife, their relationship and partner choice."
The pair are working on a third study where the same 158 women will be interviewed again to see if their moods have changed a year later.
There are many reasons behind the emotional crash. For some, it's returning to everyday life. For others, it's the elimination of planning and anticipating such a big celebration or the loss of looking forward to that cultural, life-altering event. Then there's the diminished attention, social letdown and the pressures and expectations that come with your new life and spouse.
"For most, this kind of sadness is temporary," said Elizabeth Sloan, a licensed professional counselor in McLean, Virginia, who added that these melancholy feelings generally lessen during the months that follow your wedding. "First talk to other married friends, then talk to your spouse," she said.
Wedding指結婚儀式，marriage是婚姻狀態。談論結婚這檔事時，通常用get married而非marriage。例如，兩小無猜結婚嫌太早，英文會說：I think they're too young to get married.而非I think they're too young for marriage. 「婚姻生活」是married life，不是marriage life。
對某些人來說，婚禮愈是風光浪漫，婚後面對每天開門七件事（returning to everyday life）的情緒崩壞（emotional crash）就更嚴重，crash可用collapse或breakdown替換。
作者使用sadness/ depression/letdown/melancholy等意義大同小異的字來說明post-wedding blues，避免重複。如何面對憂鬱？浪漫主義詩人濟慈（John Keats）的名作Ode on Melancholy（「憂鬱頌」）值得玩味。
A Migrant's Tragic Journey to Europe. It's Not on the News, It's Opera. 船民哀歌 搬上歌劇舞台
Off the coast of Sicily, a rickety boat of migrants is in distress. Tossed by waves and drenched, women and children scream as a voice barks, "Jump and swim!" They do, but — as history shows — not everyone will make it.
This is the tragically familiar journey that has been made across the Mediterranean by countless migrants fleeing war and famine in recent times. But instead of transpiring in the sea between Italy and Libya, this scene was being enacted on the stage of the Teatro Massimo, an opera house in the Sicilian capital, Palermo.
Co-produced by the theater and by the Teatro di San Carlo in Naples, "Winter Journey," which had its world premiere in Palermo earlier this month, tells the story of desperate migration from troubled, war-torn countries to Europe.
"It is a journey toward a country where they will find hostility, a cold welcome or perhaps no welcome at all, to a place where there is a winter of the soul," said Italian pianist and composer Ludovico Einaudi, who wrote the score of the opera to a libretto by Irish novelist Colm Toibin. "It is a journey to a hostile world," Einaudi said, "in which your soul can die."
The story is told from the perspective of three characters: a man from an unnamed country moving from hardship to hardship as he seeks a better life in Europe, and the woman and child he has left behind. The choir serves as a Greek chorus, while a politician (a speaking role) intervenes intermittently with refrains that will be familiar to many European ears: "The boat cannot dock at our port," "Why should we deal with this problem?" and, "We do not want strangers on our streets."
Toibin said in a telephone interview that the work was "a simple story, almost a folk tale," in which the main characters "sing their own stories," focusing on the personal to "stir emotions." But "Winter Journey" is not a simple call for open borders, he said. "Even though it is clear where my sympathies lie, I am alert to the complexity of the argument, and that has to be registered."